Have you ever noticed how alive and confident you feel when you are fully aligned to your own inner voice? When you listen to your gut instincts and follow your own path – no matter who is walking the other direction or what they say about yours?
If you’ve felt that way before, then you’ll know how good it feels.
If you haven’t, then let me tell you why it is important that you give it a try…
In a world where we are constantly fed a stream of advice via traditional and social media, having the self-confidence to celebrate your uniqueness is a true gift.
So many of us live our lives trying to be someone else. We measure our looks against airbrushed models, measure our success against the rich and famous or the neighbour with the new car or measure our worth by what we are told is ‘right’ or ‘proper’. We forget that we are measuring our insides against others outsides – we forget that what we see is only what they want us to see. We measure our happiness and worthiness on someone else’s scale.
And it’s making most of us miserable.
Wouldn’t it be better if we listened to that little voice that told us to follow our dreams, to work less, to play more, to get that tattoo, to wear those red shoes, to dance in our kitchen? Wouldn’t we be happier and feel more worthy if we didn’t measure ourselves against others? Each of us is, after all, unique. And it all comes down to self-confidence…
“The more you like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique.” ~ Walt Disney
Like any skill or habit, self-confidence and worthiness can be learnt. But it’s a little bit like the story of Goldilocks and the three bears – you need not too much and not too little, but just the right amount! Those who are over confident appear cocky and arrogant whilst those you are under confident are shy and can feel unworthy – the right balance of intellect and intuition leads to a healthy self-confidence that keeps you humble but self-assured.
It’s something you have to take step by step. Each time you trust yourself over someone else, each time you let a little bit of your personality creep into your day, each time you speak up and let your voice be heard is another step in the right direction. It won’t happen overnight, but if you are committed to spending some time working on yourself and tune out the constant chatter of the outside world, you can get there. You also need to realise that absolutely everything is progress, just like Danielle LaPorte reminds us in her Truthbomb…
So this week I dare you to be yourself. I dare you to celebrate your uniqueness and find your own voice. I dare you to do one thing a day that you would normally ignore or be too shy to do. Go on… I dare you….