This week I was reminded that whilst many of our friends and family are very supportive of our choices, others may scorn these and give out their own standard brand of advice, especially if we choose to follow a path that is foreign or unusual to them. They may periodically suggest to us that we get ‘real jobs’ or that what we are doing is OK as a hobby until we return to the rat race. I myself have been accused of being lazy and of focusing too much on ‘woo woo’ stuff when I could be working…
This used to make me angry and I would feel that defending myself and my choices was the only option. It used to cut deep and leave scars that never seemed to heal. It made me guard my answers in the face of any future questions lest I be ridiculed or told I was not doing enough. I felt looked down upon and less worthy than those who worked full time even though I was a full time mum and had 3 businesses at the time!
But now, these attitudes simply make me feel sad. Sad that the person giving the advice is so fearful of change, sad that their own life experiences do not enable them to understand the path I am taking, or at least to hold in their comments and allow me to create my own reality. Sad that they cannot see wonder in the depths of exploring your fears and coming out on top of them. Sad that I can’t help them to discover the amazing miracles I’ve witnessed and synchronicities I have in my life. Sad that they are locked into a view that we have to BE something to be of value to society.
To paddle in the shallows of what has always been is far safer than to swim out into the deep of the unknown. But it is not in the shallows that we face our fears and find our true selves.
So, I said that this used to make me angry and set me into a spiral of self-admonishment, but it doesn’t anymore. I guess you’re wondering how I went from anger to understanding? Well, I’ll let you in on how I did it and how I continue to let things bounce off me instead of letting things get to me.
Here are my top tips…
Find some LMPs
LMPs = Like Minded Peoples!! It is so important to find people who think the way you do, who can reassure you when you are feeling like crap, who are already doing what you want to do and prove to you that it can be done. Whether they are real or virtual doesn’t really matter, but the fact that you can be yourself around them is. You’ll find that your opinion matters to them and building a community is so important when you are trying to be authentic to yourself and follow your unique path.
Follow Inspiring People
Not like a stalker of course, but follow people who really inspire you – whether they are doing the same thing as you or not. I am inspired by so many amazing people from Danielle LaPorte and Marie Forleo to Richard Branson and Steve Maraboli, and many many others. Reading their stories and following them on social media is one of the best quick boosts I know.
Avoid Negative People & Situations
Sometimes this can be really hard, but the more you can distance yourself from the bad stuff, the happier and more inspired you will be. This in turn helps you bounce of negative comments because when you surround yourself with positivity, you attract more of the same and the negative stuff just can’t grip on as tightly as it did in the past. So, for example, try to keep away from the daily (bad) news, avoid people who bring you down or limit your contact with them and steer clear of places that make you anxious.
This is my bag! Anyone will tell you to protect yourself against injury if you are playing a sport, or wear a jacket if it’s cold or wet, but not many people will advise you to protect yourself against the negative energy coming from all around us. And yet it is this energy that does some of the most damage and leaves lasting emotional scars until we work out a way to heal ourselves from the initial attacks and protect ourselves from future ones. The simplest way of doing this in a hurry is to visualise yourself in a large bubble – it can be any colour you like but it has to be BIG. Think about it being outside the reach of your fingertips at full arm stretch and then add a little more. I help this visualisation along by taking a deep breath in and then blowing it out like I am blowing up the bubble myself, whilst my intention is to protect me against anything that doesn’t serve my highest purpose. Give it a try and see how quickly it helps bounce off negative energy!
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Never Give Up on Your Dreams
Remember, that no matter what anyone else thinks or says, your life really is your own and living it to your own beat is the most important thing you can do. Knowing what you really want out of life and then putting your heart and soul into it is the only thing that really matters unless you want to end up regretting what you could’ve would’ve or should’ve done!
Understand that the right to choose your own path is a sacred privilege. Use it. Dwell in possibility. ~ Oprah Winfrey
It may not happen overnight, but if you follow at least some of these tips then slowly but surely you will find that you bounce off more negative comments than you let in, and that’s got to be a good thing!
I’d love to hear what you think about this week’s tips and hope that you continue to follow your path and live the life you’ve always wanted.
Until next week, H x
If you are feeling a little overwhelmed by the expectation of others, then carrying a piece of Aquamarine may help. Aquamarine can help restore calm and reduce stress. Its colour varies from opaque light blue to clear gem-quality crystals, but all pieces will help bring you strength to deal with difficult situations and give you courage to communicate your own needs and beliefs clearly.