OK, so you are probably wondering WTF a Heart Dump is?!
Well, it’s basically how you verbalize whatever feelings you have in your heart, and is a great step to take after you’ve started to honour your emotions by acknowledging them (see last week’s Express Yourself post). If you are in touch with how you actually feel and have things bottled up inside, it’s basically giving yourself permission to get them out and tell the world how you feel.
Life is way too short for “what if’s”, “should’s”, “could’s” and “would’s”…
Did you know that one of the top 5 regrets people have when they are dying is that they wish they’d had the courage to express their feelings*??? We suppress our heart’s desires to keep the peace and seemingly keep ourselves safe from harm. But is it worth hiding who you are NOW only to regret it on your deathbed?? I say NO!
However, this is scary stuff. To put yourself out there and tell people how you feel can leave you open to rejection, loss, misunderstanding or even ridicule – things we spend our lives trying to avoid. And this is why so many of us end up regretting the things we should have said but were too scared to speak up and say at the time. So why then would we risk looking foolish?
“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.” ~ Brené Brown
Because letting ourselves be seen is the most empowering thing you can do. We become authentic to who we really are. We release limitations put on us by ourselves, our family, friends and society in general and allow ourselves to “just be”. We open our hearts to feeling the full range of emotions and not remain numb to all of the riches that life offers.
Energetically, doing this opens our Heart chakra and allows us to receive greater love and compassion from the Universe. This in turn nourishes the soul and gives you more energy and support to take on even more difficult emotions and feelings.
And as an added bonus, we may even find that what we let out is just what someone else has been waiting to hear!!!
So how do you Heart Dump?
Here are some of the ways that we can regularly Heart Dump and save ourselves from regret:
- give loved ones a hug and tell them you love them
- text, or even better – CALL a friend to tell them how much they mean to you
- contact someone from your past and tell them what they meant to you
- send letters or postcards to people you care about
- post positive messages on your Facebook wall telling your online friends that you value them
- make your space reflect you – decorate it with objects that show your personality
- blog about something you love – even if no-one reads it to begin with, you will slowly attract those who resonate with your style and message
- apologise for something you have done – even if it was years ago, it can be a great release for you and the person you apologise to**
- write a journal for yourself and really get your true feelings out onto the page
If you love someone, tell them. For hearts are often broken by words left unspoken.
Although you may want to do all of these things just once and get it over and done with, real Heart Dumping happens regularly and is a conscious practice that you need to make part of your life. Oh, and make sure you use the methods above that resonate with you – as only then will they feel genuine and authentic.
The more in tune you are with your feelings and emotions and the more often you do this the easier it becomes. But don’t be surprised if people don’t understand you wearing your heart on your sleeve – we have all lived under the cover of pretending our hearts don’t matter for so long that you are bound to confuse some people!
I’d love to know how you get on with this and you can let me know in the comments below or via my Facebook page.
Until next time – be brilliant,
If you need to have a Heart Dump, having a piece of Rhodonite handy is a great idea. Rhodonite is an emotional balancer and it can help you release past hurt and nurture healthy self-love. Supporting self-confidence and improving self-esteem, Rhodonite is also a powerful stone for the heart.
Sources & related reading:
* Dying people’s top 5 regrets revealed and they may change your life – The Mirror, 17 March 2015
** Better late than never: Man gets apology from bully 20 years after leaving school – Metro, 16 May 2015